Body Language Mistakes You Don't Even Know You're Making - Episode 008
Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Wait… did I just make that awkward?” Or been told you seem “intimidating” or “standoffish,” even though you were just… existing? If so—you’re not alone. And no, you’re not doing anything wrong.
But here’s the truth: people start forming impressions of you before you say a single word. We all unintentionally give off signals through our body language, facial expressions, and energy—and sometimes, those signals don’t reflect who we actually are.
Whether you’ve ever been told you’re “intimidating” (and didn’t mean to be), struggle with awkward first impressions, or just want to communicate with more warmth and authority—this is for you. If you want to go even more in-depth, listen to the podcast episode above that breaks it all down in an easy-to-digest, conversational way.
Why This Matters (and Why It’s Not About Faking It)
Let’s get one thing straight: this isn’t about “performing” or changing your personality to please other people.
This is about learning how to:
Show up with more intention
Understand how your presence is being interpreted
And adjust a few small habits so your outside matches your inside
When you do that, you start to show up with more confidence, clarity, and credibility—without sacrificing your authenticity.
The Subtle Habits That Shape First Impressions
Here are just a few small, unconscious behaviors that may be affecting how people see you:
1. Your Default Face
That neutral expression you have when you’re not actively talking? It matters. If your “resting face” looks tense, annoyed, or blank, others may assume you're upset—or unfriendly—even if you’re just deep in thought.
Try this: Practice softening your gaze, gently releasing tension in your jaw, and lifting the corners of your mouth slightly when listening. You don’t have to smile nonstop—but a little intention goes a long way.
2. How You Enter a Room (or Zoom Call)
Before you even sit down, people are picking up cues: Do you walk in with confidence? Are your shoulders up? Do you make eye contact and smile?
Try this: The way you enter a space sets the tone. So instead of shuffling in and scanning the floor, try walking in with posture, presence, and a plan.
3. Your Eye Contact
Too little eye contact? You might seem disengaged or unsure. Too much? It can feel intense or even aggressive.
Try this: Use soft eye contact—aim for holding someone’s gaze for a few seconds at a time, then naturally look away before returning. It’s a dance, not a stare-down.
4. Micro-Movements and Fidgeting
Leg bouncing, phone-checking, hair twirling… these small habits can quietly signal nervousness, disinterest, or discomfort.
Try this: Instead, try grounding your feet, resting your hands visibly, and replacing fidgeting with intentional gestures. Your stillness = your power.