Communicate Like a Leader: Charisma, Confidence & Being Memorable - Episode 009
Hate small talk? Feel like you’re invisible in meetings? Wish you could speak up and actually be heard—without pretending to be super confident or more outgoing than you are? You’re not alone. And here’s the good news: you don’t need to be loud to be taken seriously.
If you’re an introvert, a little socially anxious, or just over trying to blend in, this is for you. Let’s talk about building executive presence, owning your voice, and using science-backed strategies to change how people see you—fast.
>>Pssst, if you want to learn about how to use non-verbal communication to establish your presence, check out: Body Language Mistakes You Don’t Even Know You’re Making
Here are the top takeaways:
1. Charisma Isn’t About Being Born With It
Charisma isn’t some magical quality only “naturals” have. It’s actually a mix of two things:
Warmth: Do you come across as approachable, kind, and human?
Competence: Do you seem capable, sharp, and confident?
Here’s the thing: people judge warmth first, in seconds. Your body language, tone, and even how you say hello make an impression long before your skills do. And the best part? Warmth + competence is a formula anyone can learn.
2. Your Voice Speaks Volumes (Literally)
First impressions aren’t just about how you look—they’re about how you sound. Struggling with nerves? Here’s what to watch for:
Speaking too fast or too softly
Filler words like “um” or “you know”
That rising “uptalk” tone at the end of sentences (sounds like a question, even when you’re making a statement)
Confident speakers do this instead:
Speak clearly and with purpose
Use pacing and pauses for impact
Say things like they mean them—because they do
Even your “hello” matters. Next time you enter a room, ask yourself: What vibe do I want to bring in with me?
3. Networking Doesn’t Have to Be Cringey
Hate the idea of networking? You’re not alone. But here’s the truth: it doesn’t have to feel fake or forced. You don’t need to be the loudest person in the room to make an impact.
In this episode, we’ll share introvert-friendly tips to:
Nail your introduction and actually be remembered
Start real, authentic conversations
Use body language and energy to quietly own the room
4. Executive Presence Can Change Everything
Did you know executive presence accounts for 26% of what it takes to get promoted? Yep, it’s that important. You could be the smartest person in the room and still get overlooked if you don’t project confidence.
Here’s how to fix that:
Be assertive without coming off as arrogant
Communicate like a leader (without all the corporate buzzwords)
Use your voice to influence and inspire
5. Stop Downplaying Yourself
How many times have you deflected a compliment or softened your ideas with phrases like:
“I’m not sure, but…”
“This might sound dumb, but…”
Enough of that. You deserve to take space. Here’s how:
Accept compliments with a simple, confident “thank you”
Share credit without hiding your own contributions
Respond to feedback with clarity, not self-doubt
Speak Like You Deserve to Be Heard—Because You Do
This isn’t about pretending to be someone you’re not. It’s about stepping into who you already are—more visibly, more audibly, and more unapologetically.
Whether you’re an introvert trying to get comfortable in the spotlight, a rising leader ready to be taken seriously, or just someone who’s tired of shrinking… this episode gives you tools to take up space with grace.